Why Complain?

“I don’t fix problems. I fix my thinking. Then problems fix themselves.”

    If you are familiar with my writing you are expecting a positive message. Well I’m sorry to disappoint you but this is not a positive message. This message is fact. There is no room for the rah-rah feel good message when it comes to the quote above. Your mind is the most powerful asset you have and you are in full control of accessing that power. That is a fact and the message below will provide indisputable proof of that fact. Maybe this message will resonate with you or with someone you know. In either instance you have an obligation to act. If you decide to act you can benefit from the results from those actions. If you choose not to act you are most likely part of the problem.

Life Can Suck

   Another fact that cannot be disputed is that life is not going to go your way all the time. You will face disappointment. You will face heartache. You will face injustice. You will face pain. Your will not face these unfortunate aspects of life at all times but at some point you will. We all do. They are all a part of life. Knowing this you should not be surprised when it does happen. If you are responsible you will be prepared and being prepared is your choice. You will know if you were prepared based on how you react to the situation once it becomes reality. As you may or may not know life is not about what happens to you but it is about how you react to it.


   To help paint the picture let’s discuss a common trait that many people have or have experienced from someone else. That is the trait of complaining. Complaining can be a natural reaction to an unfortunate aspect of life. If somehow you are faced with an injustice and are not being treated fairly you may naturally complain. You may complain because you think it is not right. So if you have the complainer trait that is what you will do. You will complain.    

   You may complain over and over to anyone who will listen. You will say things like; “This isn’t right”. “They shouldn’t have done that.” “This is unfair.” You will have every right to say these things because that is what you are thinking. Yet if all you do is complain what purpose is it serving? Remember you are in control of your thinking and as a man thinketh, so is he (a loose interpretation of Proverbs 23:7).  That means if all you do is complain you will be just that, a complainer.

Problem Solver

    However if you think those things are not right but they can be solved, you will approach the unfortunate aspect in a different manner. By focusing your thinking on the fact that the problem can be solved you may still start with a complaint but you will finish with a solution. You may not even know the solution but you will seek the solution with the help of others because you think it can be solved. 

    You may complain over and over to anyone who will listen but it will sound different than the previous example. You will now say things like; “This isn’t right. How can we work together to correct it?” “They shouldn’t have done that. Let’s work with them to help them not repeat that mistake.” “This is unfair. One way to make this fair is to do x, y or z.” By approaching the problem this way you are actually trying to solve it. Remember you are in control of your thinking and as a man thinketh, so is he. If you complain and follow with a solution you will now be a problem solver.

    The examples above are important because you decide how you react to the situation at hand. If all you do is complain then you need to be prepared to continue complaining. Unfortunately a few of you get so good at it that you don’t realize you do it over and over again like a broken record. This is your choice however; it is hard to imagine that you truly enjoy that choice. 

    If you decide to think about and discuss potential solutions then together we can solve the problem that started the complaint, thus removing the reason to complain. You may have to do this over and over again until a solution is found but you will eventually find a solution. 

You Are in Full Control

    There is no denying the fact that you control the way you think. You control your reaction to any situation. This is your life and you get to choose. So when the next unfortunate aspect of life rears its ugly head, step back and look at your reaction. Are you just complaining about it or are you offering solutions? If you are just complaining you may be no better than the unfortunate aspect because you are doing nothing to fix it. By doing nothing you may even be helping it continue to exist. As a man thinketh, so is he. 

     If you are complaining but also offering solutions you are doing something to help fix it.  You are trying to eliminate the problem so it no longer exists. You are a problem solver. As a man thinketh, so is he. As a problem solver you know there is a way to solve the problem.  There is an abundance of ways to solve the problem.  You just have to work together to find it.  This is a perfect reminder to Think Abundance.  That is the message for this week. As always I wish you the best and remind you to enjoy the journey.

With gratitude,


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